6 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Success
This is a guest post by Vishnu of Vishnu’s Virtues.
“Success is a science; if you have the conditions, you get the result.” – Oscar Wilde
A couple of years ago, I kicked off a blog in the very crowded personal development space.
I didn’t know if there was room for yet another self-improvement blog.
One that had a different perspective, talked about unusual subjects and used humor to question ideas.
Would anyone even read it? Would anyone be willing to comment on a post I wrote?
At the moment, I’m also anxious about completing the life coaching course by the mad genius of online life coaches – Tim Brownson.
Although Tim has poured his heart out into this course and provides an overwhelming amount of practical how-to strategies about coaching people to success, I’m wondering about my own ability to help others overcome their life’s most challenging circumstances and move forward with their lives.
What Failure Means To Me
I know that if I don’t progress very far with my blog or coaching, it would be a sign that I shouldn’t be doing this kind of work.
Failure would help put these dreams to rest.
Failing on both fronts would also mean that I would have learnt a lot in the process, improved my writing and built up personal development skills I can implement for the rest of my life.
I realize all the many aspects of failure and have come to terms with the fact that it’s not fear of failure that’s holding me back in life.
I haven’t quite committed myself 100% to my blog or my strong interest to coach not because of a fear of failure.
What is it that paralyzes all of us from our dreams and deepest callings?
Fear of Failure?
Or fear of unbridled success and achieving what we set out to do?
You and I may not really be concerned about failure that much.
Failure could mean we’ve lost some time and money.
But it’s not the end of the world.
What if the thing that’s tripping us up in the world is…the fear of success?
What if my blog becomes a thumping success and helps people get back up after life-crushing events?
What if the coaching goes well and I’m able to effectively use Tim’s no- nonsense strategies to help people live the lives they wanted?
What if your book is the next best seller?
Or your service-business starts getting booked so solid that you have to turn down work or raise your rates?
Success can give you the life you’ve dreamed about.
Success can bring you more opportunities.
More financial rewards.
More connections and stronger relationships.
Stronger impact and influence on the world.
You may fear success for many of the same reasons I do.
You may fear success because of a lack of self-worth or some kookie belief that you don’t deserve success in your life.
It may be your refusal to accept your innate strengths and talents.
It may be fear of what will happen with success –will you start acting like an arrogant SOB spending wads of cash mindlessly while alienating your friends and family?
Whatever it may be – there are ways to combat this.
Here are 6 ways to overcome your resistance to success.
1. Confront your resistance
Ask yourself what can possibly go wrong if you fail in your next venture?
What could possibly go right?
And if you succeeded in your freelance business, passive-income product or coaching practice, how would you feel?
Try to identify the emotion or resistance to what you’re feeling.
2. Transform your mindset
If you think about it, you’re mostly thinking about what could go wrong and how your project might crash and burn.
Flip the script and start imagining things going your way; others noticing your talents, many people signing up for your blog, a new business inquiry, an interest in your consulting service.
Also, think about (or visualize) what can happen if you succeed.
Imagine all the positive results in your business.
How fun will it be to treat your friends to dinner? Travel to Hawaii for Thanksgiving? Have more time or money to help improve other people’s lives?
3. Milestones for the goal-oriented and goal-less
I’m not sure where you are on the goals or anti-goals debate.
Even the people who hate goals (me included) need some kind of structure to success.
You need to head in a particular direction and know how far you’ve gone, so you can measure success.
Have an idea of what you’d like to accomplish by when. Often, not writing things down or having a plan in your mind, is the first step of resistance. You refuse to accept you can succeed by not having a plan or milestones to get to.
You don’t have to have the most elaborate business plan or hard-hitting goals. A simple – “3 things I’m going to get done today” list or “my focus for the week” project is sufficient to get you going.
4. The big results of small actions
Get into the habit of doing.
Your habits don’t have to be grand, elaborate or life-changing. You get it done by doing it every day; consistently and in small parts at a time.
Kevin’s a big proponent of taking action. He regularly encourages us to stop procrastinating and create the life we want.
Make it happen. Get to work. Get results.
Again, the best way to get things done is in small steps and consistently. So, take small actions towards building your dreams but do it every day.
5. Embracing your purpose; why you do what you do
Your sense of purpose is the difference between your poorly performing blog or struggling business and a world-dominating one.
Why do you get up in the morning?
What makes you tick?
What is the impact you want to make in the world?
Asking these questions may sound like BS but they are the most important questions you can know for yourself.
One way to find your purpose or your ‘why’ is the process of elimination.
Experiment and try out a lot of different things. Leave what you hate and pursue what motivates you with the intensity of a lion on the prowl for its daily meal.
6. Your mentors are your bridge to your destiny
You don’t have to go it alone. There are mentors, teachers and coaches out there who can help you discover your ‘why’ and help you find the right insights and self-knowledge to help you move past your inner-resistance and achieve your goals.
Look for others who have done what you want to do and coach with them. If you’re intent on creating a lifestyle business and taking solid action to build up your life, get a hold of Kevin’s kick-ass consultation.
If you need a productivity coach or business consultant, find one.
If you’re looking for a mentor to share how they’ve done what you want to do, seek one out in your industry. Ask people for their time and expertise. Pay for it if you think it’s worth it.
Each tip here requires you to confront your resistance to success.
Take action today and beat back your fears of making it big.
You can do it and without a doubt, you deserve it.
Are you willing to confront your fear and take some action towards success? Let me know if you’ve feared success and what you’ve done about it in the comments below.
About The Author
Vishnu writes a personal development blog for those wanting getting back up after challenging life events. For inspiration and practical life strategies, sign up for his weekly posts at www.vishnusvirtues.com
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