Being Hard On Yourself, Where Do You Draw The Line?
This is a guest post by Jackson Anderson of Not Another Rat.
“I’ve got to make $5,000 this month otherwise I can’t be happy”
“If I don’t do 500 push ups in 10 minutes, I’m a failure”
“If my writing pitch gets rejected that must mean I’m a pathetic writer and should quit!”
We often find ourselves being extremely negative.
You know how the saying goes “we’re our own worst critic”.
Well I’m here to tell you; enough is enough.
Beating yourself down every day is only pushing your dreams further and further away, and that’s only going to cause you more grief and shame.
But you say “well, if I’m not hard on myself and disciplined I’ll never achieve my dreams, I’ll be working for the man forever”.
A valid comment; I hear you loud and clear (and understand you more than I want to admit).
You need to trust me here though when I say, it’s not helping.
For example right now as I write this, it’s halfway through November and I’m in the midst of my 30-day challenge like Kevin completed here.
I have to be honest though, I haven’t hit my mark of 1,000 words each day; there were even two days where I didn’t write at all… life got in the way.
It would be so easy to beat myself down right now and question if I even want to make a career out of blogging and freelancing or if I’m just a pathetic joke who can’t stick to anything.
The truth is life fucking happens.
It gets in the damn way but it can only stop you from achieving your dreams if you let it.
Rather than beating myself up for not sticking with my goal, I’m just going to write as much as I can each day for the rest of the month and let that be my accomplishment for November.
I know I don’t want to feel defeated throughout the month so I’m going to need to make a more conscious effort to get my writing done and find a way to plan it into my days a bit better.
Truth is though some days I may not succeed, I need to be prepared to accept that and move forward with a smile and enthusiasm for what tomorrow may bring.
The Same Applies For You
You’re going to face this problem with everything you do in life, especially when you’re straying away from the traditional path.
Every time you set yourself a goal or challenge you’re opening yourself up to a chance of failure and there’s only one solution…go forward.
The road is not always going to be smooth and potholes will be there to slow you down.
Some days you may not even get one step closer.
But you don’t need to beat yourself up about it.
It’s Not Worth It
Assess where you went wrong, remember why you started this journey in the first place and create a solution to keep yourself going.
I know I can’t finish November with my original goal in mind but I can come damn close.
One step closer to my dreams is always better than no step at all.
So remember next time you hit that pothole you just have to keep pushing on and not let the disappointment of today bring you down.
You’re still going to arrive at your destination; the only difference is you might not get there the way you planned.
I leave you now with this question – What goal have you given up on because you messed up once and became discouraged?
Let us know in the comments below and lets get you back on track!
About The Author
Jackson Anderson is a freelance blogger aspiring to escape the 9-5 rat race and won’t stop until he does so. He writes honest, helpful and thought-provoking posts weekly at www.notanotherrat.com where he inspires and motivates others to escape the 9-5 prison too!
Photo Cred: Shane Robinson