The Transparency Chronicles #1
I used to give updates every few months on my journey.
But I have totally neglected this for a long time.
That’s why I have created the transparency chronicles.
Every few months I’ll give an up close and personal look at my failures, successes, and what I’m struggling with.
As I’ve said in the past, being vulnerable only leads to good things.
You guys deserve to know the truth – no matter how good or bad.
This post is a lot of “Me, Me, Me.” If you’re not interested in that, than this one isn’t for you.
Let’s get to it.
Censorship & Staying True
They are how we communicate.
They are how I make money.
They are everything.
But when I lay down the word “Fuck” the world explodes.
We don’t have to put so much weight on our words.
We are not defined by words, we are defined by actions.
I get emails and unsubscribes complaining about the profanity on this site.
If it’s not your thing. That’s totally okay.
But I will never censor myself. I don’t want this blog to be radio-friendly.
I want people to come here for raw honesty.
When people guest post here, I let them know you don’t have to hold anything back.
With all that being said, I’m not swearing like a sailor every day and I want this blog to be a direct reflection of my life.
Profanity is something that naturally happens. So I’ll never censor myself but I’ll never force myself to cuss when writing.
I’ve been guilty of it in the past, and it looks pretty rough.
I will continue to stay true to myself and grow this blog in a manner I feel is right. Never selling out and never saying shit I don’t believe in.
I’m deeply in love with coaching. It’s so freakin’ rewarding to do this. Every time I get on a call I have an absolute blast. I jam with a client for an hour and by the time the call is over, I feel like a million bucks.
I’ve come to find that I’m a blend of coach, consultant, and strategist. I’ve just taken things to the next level and enrolled in a coach training course called Coach The Life Coach.
Time to improve my skills and serve my clients at a deeper level.
When I moved down to Tampa, Florida I cleaned my slate. I got rid of every negative influence I had back in Maryland. I literally got a new phone number and stopped talking to those people. Sounds harsh, but it was necessary.
I neglected the shit out of my social life for the first 8 months I lived here. I never went to meetups. I never connected with other entrepreneurs. I didn’t do anything.
Being a natural introvert, I didn’t really mind for about 3 or 4 months, but after awhile it got bad.
So after being depressed and lonely for awhile I decided to make a conscious effort to connect with people offline and make some friends. It has paid off.
Now my weekends are booked and I get to spend almost all of my time with like-minded individuals.
Note: Don’t delay your social life. Make that shit a concerted effort. Find people, connect, and enjoy.
I don’t date anymore. I still talk, flirt, and meet new women every week, but I’m almost never compatible with them.
Every girl my age I’ve met (so far) is going to college and either focused on getting the coveted diploma or partying until their brain melts.
But it’s okay. I’ve known for awhile that following your purpose in life changes other aspects. I don’t mind not dating.
When I see a girl who I’m not compatible with, it doesn’t matter. There’s far important things in life.
Embarrassment comes when you don’t want to feel vulnerable.
In the past, I’ve felt pretty embarrassed about living with my parents and not making loads of money.
When people asked me “Why’d you move down to Tampa?” I’d pause and stammer my words. But these things don’t matter worth shit.
I’m building up my businesses without having to pay rent. Sounds good to me. No more avoiding the question.
Business & Finances
If you know my background, you know that I did SEO writing. It was my first successful business. But I hated it.
The monotony of writing random shit every day crushed my soul so I got out of it. I gave up lucrative jobs and decided to focus on this blog.
With minimal expenses and the decent money I made from SEO writing, I knew I could go a long time making zero money. But as time progressed, the bank account started to shrink.
And then…something terrible happened. I was walking home from the library one day with my laptop and to-do list in my waterproof backpack and it started to rain. I thought “Whatever, it’s just water.”
But in Florida, there is no such thing as a drizzle. It rains hard or it doesn’t rain at all. So when I got home, I opened up my backpack and found that my waterproof backpack wasn’t so waterproof.
Water leaked through and got into my laptop. I desperately tried to get the water out of it, but it was too late. When I tried to turn it on it almost caught on fire. “Oh shit.”
Laptops are expensive and money is tight.
I have decided to re-enter the SEO writing biz. But I’m doing it differently this time. No more writing random shit all day. I’ve learned my lesson.
Now I will be outsourcing everything. I’m taking the massive amount of knowledge I learned since my first time around and applying it to the biz. You can check out my sexy new site over here → http://kevincoleseo.com.
Right now I’m working on my Dad’s laptop. But this experience has allowed me to see the power of community.
Not only did I receive countless recommendations for a new laptop, I had a friend offer to lend me his laptop. Community is everything.
More than anything in the world – I want to travel. That’s one of the major reasons I got into this business in the first place.
I have been working at this for 16 months and have made substantial progress. But obviously I’m still in the country.
The game plan is to leave within the first 6 months of 2014. My SEO writing biz along with my coaching will keep me afloat.
If you’re going to be in Thailand in the first half or 2014, I will see you there!
Calls, Video, And Other Forms of Communication
Writing is great. I’ve gotten really good at it and have written well over 120k words this year. But sometimes it sucks. So I’ve started to ponder other means of communication.
A podcast may be in the works but I’ll know more with time. I’m also going to start doing more video blog posts in the coming months as well.
I have been scheduling a massive amount of calls every week now. These are with other entrepreneurs, designers, programmers, bloggers, writers, and world-changers. This is seriously fun.
Something I’m considering doing is recording these calls and putting them out into the world.
I’ve always enjoyed Joe Rogan’s podcast because it’s long form conversation with no agenda. Forget bullshit Q & A. Just get some interesting people together and record it. Thoughts on this?
Month of Honesty
My month of honesty is in full swing.
It’s been really tough. I’ve had to have some hard conversations including…
- Telling the world about my involvement in the pick-up industry. (Including my mom)
- Talking to my Dad about our strained relationship.
These are the kind of conversations we avoid. They are emotionally taxing and scare the shit out of us. But I’ve found they are not nearly as bad as you think.
You just have to do it.
The world will not end when you have a tough conversation. Being honest will lift the weight off your shoulders.
If you are avoiding a tough conversation – address it. Don’t let your emotions boil up inside you.
Another thing I’ve found throughout this month is that I tell a shit load of little lies without even realizing it.
Most of the time these are exaggerations or variations of the truth. It’s very rare that it’s a total outright lie.
But they are there. All the time.
A lot of these little lies pop up because I want to tell a more interesting story. But regardless of my intentions they are still lies.
So I’ve been working on stopping them. I’ve started to force myself to tell the truth.
It doesn’t matter if that exaggeration is a more interesting story.
The truth is all that matters.
Thoughts On This Format?
What do you guys think of the transparency chronicles? Any suggestions on ways to change it or improve?
Photo Cred: Dan Conway